Denying Interracial Love: Is It As Good as Being a Racist?

by / 4 Comments / 1061 View / August 30, 2014

They say being in love is a great feeling. And everyone, irrespective of size, sex, age, appearance and sexual preference should, at least once, get the wonderful opportunity of falling in love. So why, in the end, are some relationships scared off just on the terms of both the individuals having different cultural or ethnic backgrounds? Just recently, a friend of mine went out for dinner with one of my classmates and, when I asked her if she did like him, she said Maybe, but anyways it wont work out. I am White an he is an African-American, we are better off as just friends.To my great surprise, one of my roommates agreed with her, though I did not. So how right or wrong is this idea of stopping a relationship before it has begun, based purely on the difference in ethnicity?

They say that falling in love is really not in our hands. It just happens, and when it does, it not only makes your life wonderful, but also makes you a better person. But still within all of this romanticizing of romantics, some people refuse the approval of interracial love and marriage. Every individual is born the way they are and accepting this chance of genetics is the best thing you can do to yourself. This is not only a personal guide, though, but also a rule to follow in accepting how those around us have been put into this world, a task that really isnt that difficult of a thing to do. Though this acceptance seems simple, it is something that everyone has failed at in some time or another. At school and in workplaces, people of all cultural backgrounds, ethnicity, races, minorities and religion are given equal opportunities, but when it comes to more personal relationships and life, a sense of hesitation appears to exist. In order to find out why, the best we can do is to look into ourselves and ask for a reason from within. Why do we hold these prejudices?

We live in a world where no place is too far. Moving around the world is a fairly common occurrence and students and immigrants from all over the world have been getting the wonderful opportunity of being surrounded by people who are different from them in someway – be it religion, race, or just countries of origin. Who doesnt want to have a new friend in their life? And when what began as a typical friendship becomes something special and you just fall for the person, it is probably one of the greatest feelings we know as people. So then why are race and religion considered to be barriers to relationships? Many people have agreed to overcome these common obstacles and be in love with someone from a different cultural background and are, most importantly, happy in life. But how many is that many in respects to a world that seems to still be split on unsplitting?

Many questions remain unanswered when it comes to something as sensitive of a topic as racism and ethnicity, but on a different page of the same book, what happens when we fall in love? What happens when we wish to talk to the person all day, wish to be with them, think about them, maybe even imagine running into them at places where an encounter is pretty unlikely. Yes, we still do that. Women, I would like to ask you: how would you feel if a guy got you breakfast in bed, or flowers for you just because? Would you still feel the same way if he was of a different racial background? I ask, why can you not? When you do like a person in a special way, a different vibe is given out of you that the other person may or may not see, but it is different from your everyday interaction. And it is great! So whatever you may think of doing next. Do NOT deny it. Embrace it. Because your brain and heart do not judge people by color and if they say it, then you should accept it. For whatever the future will hold for you or whatever the past has given you, trust your present and your partners presence in your life. Say yes to interracial love. Its love in the end, it is what it is. 

  • Anon Anon

    I can’t tell if I am being taken on a dreamy fantasy ride about love over coming obstacles or being lectured about what love should be. The bottom line is people can and will choose whomever they want as a spouse or wife for whatever reasons they want. And they should. It is important that they do this because if they do not, they may regret their choice, which could lead to divorce; the opposite of love. Again, this sounds sweet but its a guilt trip where if you don’t choose someone of another race or disagree with it you must be bad or unloving. Its a sensitive issue and there are many reasons besides race people choose a spouse. Most importantly, its seems almost common sense to me that when someone is raised in one culture you are going to look for someone who shares that particular culture, or if raised in one race to prefer that race. That may hurt feeling but i think its true. I am not a racist.

  • Halifax Steppenwulf

    You really skirted around the root of problem. The fact that some people don’t find the

    • Fiora

      Sounds fairly eurocentric of you to say that. Obviously culture is very important, but “physical characteristics”? Really?

      • Halifax Steppenwulf

        Yes. If, for example, a person preferred stereotypical asian girls (shorter, dark hair, petite), then they probably won’t find a tall, well endowed, Scandinavian blonde all that appealing.